Feeling of being pressured by family and friends :(
 

I feel so pressured of getting pregnant asap. To be honest, hubby and me do have sex almost every day just so as not to miss a day or chance for me to get pregnant. Consecutive months now and still nothing. As much as I don't want to sound desperate, I admit, I am. Always been downplaying the thought of being infertile but in reality, I am scared. I have regular monthly periods and my OB says nothing is wrong with me. It's just timing. Every time we visit my parents and his, all those questions of when's the baby coming? or how's the TTC going on etc. are part of those visits. An instance in the office when a colleague who just got married last month announces that she's pregnant gave me looks from others too. I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or not. I don't know what to do.

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I am so sad reading your post. I hope you won't feel so stressed about it. The more you feel stressed, the less chances that you will get pregnant. Also, have you tried seeing a doctor to talk about it?

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Oh Fanny, please don't be too hard on yourself. Patience is a virtue. I apologize for sounding too cliche, but really that's the first thing that you should cultivate this time. You said that you have regular monthly periods, right? So use that as a source of your confidence. It also sounds as if your husband is very supportive. You are fortunate to have his cooperation too. I think you feel that you're lacking that's why you think that others think of you in that way too. If you are hopeful and confident that one day you'll be blessed with your own babt, it will and should exude! And that bright disposition will prevent others to comment about your being child-less for now. Cheer up girl!

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Don't feel pressured. Just smile when they ask. The more pressured you are, the more stressed you get and stress is never good in making a baby. Just enjoy the lovemaking ;) Take your time, it will come.

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Probably tell them that you're all planning for the baby's arrival and just surprise them when you're already expecting! That way they won't think that you're all desperately focused on that having a baby alone. Call me a little b*tchy but hey, there's no harm in telling that white lie for you to avoid getting hurt by their negative comments girl. Cheer up! As the saying goes... "B*tch me once then I'll b*tch you twice!" They shouldn't be treating your TTC period as a circus! Respect!!! And when I say "They" I'm referring to people not even related or important to you who have the guts to comment tactlessly. Ew.

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DITTO to Adalira!!! :)

Sometimes those people need to be given a dose of their own medicine to realize not to be acting so rude... :mad:

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Thank you dear ladies for all of those suggestions! I know it's better said than done. I know what I should be doing or how I should be reacting but sometimes when I get caught off-guard, I feel a sense of embarrassment or "lacking" when the matters about pregnancy are talked about, especially at work... I think I should be fixing myself first, what I think of or how I perceive myself too, so I'd be able to deal with them properly. Again, my warm thanks to all!

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What you've said just gave me a "confidence" overload. Thanks pal! :)

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You're so right Fanny. Change the way you think of yourself first and it will exude! God has a plan for you and just think that these TTC moments are a part of it. Cheer up hun!

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@ Adalira- a big DITTO!

@ Fanny- Cheer up! The mere fact that you have your hubby who loves you so much is already a good thing. Don't dwell on negative thoughts. I hope you and your hubby will soon have a baby this year!

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Oh Fanny, please don't concentrate on those negative stuff. Of course, do your best in trying to get pregnant but I think it's much better if you and our hubby will take this time to enjoy your time together. Try to travel and do the things you both love to do. It's also the best time to save up for your family. Also the right time to purchase whatever you want (but better to always keep some for your emergency fund! :p ) as you might stretch your budget when the baby's on the way.

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Oh dear if only we could make you feel better. I suggest please don't be too impatient on having a baby. Remember that "Man proposes and God disposes." I am not saying that you won't have a baby, considering the fact that you don't have any problems at all and it's just hitting the right time to DTD. But please bear in mind that you cannot force something as soon as you want to. Take your time. Try to get pregnant but please don't make it your life. There are other things in life to be thankful for. If it happens, it happens but don't tire yourself of it making you not enjoy the gift of life you now have. Good luck dear.

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Couldn't help but agree with you Baha.

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You are very right here Fanny... I know it's hard to do the things that you know must do... Things are always easier said than done... But do not worry, the right time will come. :)

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I agree with Baha. Enjoy what you have right now WHILE working for what you want- a baby! Don't get stressed out. Entrust God everything, do everything and let nature take its course. Cheer up dear and good luck!

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Thanks for those sweet words! Reading your positive words really makes my day. Actually, these past couple of weeks, I've been trying to face everyone with confidence and faith that soon hubby and I will have our baby. I admit, I'm way feeling better now that I've patiently waiting than before when I had to think of getting pregnant by hook or by crook. :)

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@ Fanny - Good for you Fanny. We all have to go through on the chapters of our lives where we want to have something but no matter how hard we try, we just couldn't possibly achieve right there and then. Just live happily, with or without the baby YET. Avoid people who make your TTC life ugly. Surround yourself with positive people to attract positive energies. Judgmental people are a waste of time.

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Oh boy, life is really ironic. Those people who's dying to have a child sometimes couldn't hit it and those who are so into their dreams of fulfilling other aspects in life, those who haven't even saved up a single quid get to have a bun to bake. I feel for you Fanny, but when I first found out that I was pregnant, I felt indifferent, surprised and frightened. "Wrong timing" are the two words which were stuck on my mind on the first few days upon confirming that I was pregnant. But eventually this beautiful gift has set in. I am now happy. I know you will be too and I'm happy for you that you're married, got your loving hubby and everything's perfect before the arrival of your bundle of joy. In my case it is otherwise. No plans, no fireworks, no nothing. But I know everything will be ok. As for you, everything will be perfect. Cheer up dear! :)

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Amen to that Halia!

Indeed, life is full of ironies and paradox and we're all here to enjoy every bit of this borrowed time.