Feeling of being pressured by family and friends :(

Gaetana · 12-08-2012

Oh Fanny, please don't be too hard on yourself. Patience is a virtue. I apologize for sounding too cliche, but really that's the first thing that you should cultivate this time. You said that you have regular monthly periods, right? So use that as a source of your confidence. It also sounds as if your husband is very supportive. You are fortunate to have his cooperation too. I think you feel that you're lacking that's why you think that others think of you in that way too. If you are hopeful and confident that one day you'll be blessed with your own babt, it will and should exude! And that bright disposition will prevent others to comment about your being child-less for now. Cheer up girl!

Abigail · 12-11-2012

Don't feel pressured. Just smile when they ask. The more pressured you are, the more stressed you get and stress is never good in making a baby. Just enjoy the lovemaking

Take your time, it will come.

Adalira · 12-22-2012

Probably tell them that you're all planning for the baby's arrival and just surprise them when you're already expecting! That way they won't think that you're all desperately focused on that having a baby alone. Call me a little b*tchy but hey, there's no harm in telling that white lie for you to avoid getting hurt by their negative comments girl. Cheer up! As the saying goes... "B*tch me once then I'll b*tch you twice!" They shouldn't be treating your TTC period as a circus! Respect!!! And when I say "They" I'm referring to people not even related or important to you who have the guts to comment tactlessly. Ew.

Edda · 12-23-2012

DITTO to Adalira!!!

Sometimes those people need to be given a dose of their own medicine to realize not to be acting so rude...

Fanny · 12-23-2012

Thank you dear ladies for all of those suggestions! I know it's better said than done. I know what I should be doing or how I should be reacting but sometimes when I get caught off-guard, I feel a sense of embarrassment or "lacking" when the matters about pregnancy are talked about, especially at work... I think I should be fixing myself first, what I think of or how I perceive myself too, so I'd be able to deal with them properly. Again, my warm thanks to all!

Gaetana · 01-05-2013

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Originally Posted by Fanny

Thank you dear ladies for all of those suggestions! I know it's better said than done. I know what I should be doing or how I should be reacting but sometimes when I get caught off-guard, I feel a sense of embarrassment or "lacking" when the matters about pregnancy are talked about, especially at work... I think I should be fixing myself first, what I think of or how I perceive myself too, so I'd be able to deal with them properly. Again, my warm thanks to all!

You're so right Fanny. Change the way you think of yourself first and it will exude! God has a plan for you and just think that these TTC moments are a part of it. Cheer up hun!

Idalia · 01-09-2013

@ Adalira- a big DITTO!

@ Fanny- Cheer up! The mere fact that you have your hubby who loves you so much is already a good thing. Don't dwell on negative thoughts. I hope you and your hubby will soon have a baby this year!

Cailyn · 01-31-2013

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Originally Posted by Fanny

Thank you dear ladies for all of those suggestions! I know it's better said than done. I know what I should be doing or how I should be reacting but sometimes when I get caught off-guard, I feel a sense of embarrassment or "lacking" when the matters about pregnancy are talked about, especially at work... I think I should be fixing myself first, what I think of or how I perceive myself too, so I'd be able to deal with them properly. Again, my warm thanks to all!

You are very right here Fanny... I know it's hard to do the things that you know must do... Things are always easier said than done... But do not worry, the right time will come.

Fanny · 12-23-2012

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Originally Posted by Adalira

Probably tell them that you're all planning for the baby's arrival and just surprise them when you're already expecting! That way they won't think that you're all desperately focused on that having a baby alone. Call me a little b*tchy but hey, there's no harm in telling that white lie for you to avoid getting hurt by their negative comments girl. Cheer up! As the saying goes... "B*tch me once then I'll b*tch you twice!" They shouldn't be treating your TTC period as a circus! Respect!!! And when I say "They" I'm referring to people not even related or important to you who have the guts to comment tactlessly. Ew.

What you've said just gave me a "confidence" overload. Thanks pal!