How to avoid jealousy among kids

Baha

As I've mentioned, we are expecting our 2nd baby girl by the end of January next year. I admit that our daughter, aged 5, is equally excited for the arrival of her lil sis. But I just notice recently that whenever we take a look at our baby's ultrasound pics, she keeps on pointing towards her past baby pics hanging on our wall. She just does this when her daddy and I are getting preoccupied talking about how pretty our baby is inside the womb. We are, and will, try our best to be extra affectionate to her when I give birth so she won't feel as if she's being left out. I know a little jealousy could be healthy, but I don't wanna worsen this when lil sis arrives. Any tips on how to deal with this?

Gaetana

I could relate to that. My eldest, aged 9 now, also had those moments before and after our 2nd son was born. Seems like getting all of our attention was his sole purpose each time me and DH get preoccupied with his little brother. Now my eldest loves his little bro so much and kind of overprotective too. Trust me, it's just a phase. Bear in mind that during this time, you should be conditioning him that little baby on the way needs all the loving, attention and care from the three of you. Just make sure that when little baby comes you'd shower him with equal attention too.

Daja

Let her participate. Ask for her suggestions. Let her help on the shopping, the preparation, everything. Of course, give her her own sweet time. Tell her sweet little nothings.

Dalinda

Being demonstrative is the best way in eliminating jealousy among your kids. Kisses, hugs, touches and quality time with your older child will provide make him more confident and reassured of you and your hubby's love.

Abigail

Give some quality time to your kid, a time for hugs and kisses, preparing her favorite food, playing with her toys.

Baha

@ Gaetana- thanks for the response, older sibling is a "she"

Baha

Daja- Yes, thanks for that. It'll surely help if she's involved most of the time and will avoid "when lil sis comes, then i'm outta here" kind of perception.

Dalinda and Abigail- Thanks girls, Touch then is the key!

Daja

Indeed! Congratulations and lots of good luck to you!

Abana

I think it all depends on how you'll treat each differently. Then again, it's easier said than done. Admittedly, you'd have to focus on the baby as she needs the utmost attention and care after delivery. Yes, big sissy needs attention too, but little sissy's needs are much more urgent and sensitive so meeting their needs "equally" may not be achievable by you and hubby alone, especially if hubby got to work to provide for the family. I suggest you have someone with you in the transitioning phase after delivery. That way someone will assist you in taking care of both and will also not be too exhausted spending a quality time with big sissy.

Cadelaria

It's good that you focus on your newborn, your hubby focuses on big sis, and vice versa. That way you're able to shower each other with an equal love and care. Make big sis understand that lil sis needs her so lil sis will grow strong and healthy. Always include big sis in every family activity. Kiss and hug her often for reassurance.